Friday, December 4, 2009

Constructive Criticism

I received some honest feedback on my blog by an anonymous poster recently. Who doesn't LOVE honest feedback, I ask you? I mean, when was the last time you really took the time to care enough about someone to say, "Your stories are boring me to tears." Or, "You lack the social graces of a cow." Or "Honestly, if I you look up 'dork' in the dictionary, there's a picture of you."

This caring annonymous poster basically had two complaints about this blog: 1) it's boring and (2) Kulani and myself are dorks. And he/she was passionate about both opinions, leaving comments on every post all the way back to June. I question how boring he/she really thought this blog was if he/she continued to read posts clear back in June.

But I can buy it. We are a bit boring, and I'm okay with that. This blog isn't for everybody. I'm not really sure why I created it in the first place. Yes, it's about my family. But it's also about just random thoughts. Mostly I just like to write. And I like reading about other's people thoughts and families, and maybe someone would like to read stuff that comes out of my head. But maybe not either. It's a free country, and a free blog service. Take it for what it is.

I wouldn't really want the life that is non-stop 24/7 high drama and/or FUN, FUN, FUN! When I was a junior in high school, we studied the play "Our Town." It's a rather boring play where nothing really happens, and that is the point. We're so busy living life that we don't always pause to enjoy the essence of life--the boringness of it. I remember our English teacher telling us that most of us would grow up to be ordinary people, not celebrities or extremely rich billionaires. Our lives would be simple. At the time, I thought, "Not me. I'll show 'em." But here I am: Boring Mayor of Boringtown.

It reminds me of a quote by Gordon B. Hinckley: "Anyone who imagines that bliss is normal is going to waste a lot of time running around shouting that he has been robbed. The fact is that most putts don’t drop, most beef is tough, most children grow up to be just like people, most successful marriages require a high degree of mutual toleration, and most jobs are more often dull than otherwise. Life is just like an old time rail journey ... delays, sidetracks, smoke, dust, cinders, and jolts, interspersed only occasionally by beautiful vistas and thrilling bursts of speed. The trick is to thank the Lord for letting you have the ride."

Sure, I love me some celebrity gossip from time to time. I like a good People reading as much as the next person. But you're not going to get that here. You're going to read about a barbecue we went to, or how the girls are changing with each passing year. For me, it's nice to re-read happenings from our lives, and I hope as my girls get older they will especially appreciate random, lame stories of day-to-day living as expressed from their mother and father.

As far as us being dorks, I'm pretty sure I know now that the anonymous poster was my big brother Doug. After he left on his mission, I stole his shirt with the following quote on the front: "I'm Okay, you're a Dork." Doug, I'm sorry I stole your stupid sweatshirt.

(Note: The comments have been erased and this blog is now officially closed to anonymous posters, which makes me kind-of sad. It's like going from an age where you trust everyone and never lock the front door, to being paranoid of everyone and double locking everything.)

13 comments:

Christensen's Craziness said...

That really blows chunks. I don't understand people sometimes. I love reading your blog! It is nice to kind of have a bead on what your family is doing without being one of the those really annoying nosy people.

Aundrea said...

Dang! I was all excited to go back and read all the comments from the annonymous reader...

If it makes any difference to you, I love to read about your boring life:) I've only met you once (at your reception in Blanding) and I think you're one of the most entertaining blogs around. So there!

Erin said...

I love to hear about your family. I am so glad you post the normal stuff because that is what I love to hear. I like to know how you are and that your life is wonderful and that your family is great.

I thought that was really what blogging was for.

MarySquare said...

It couldn't have been Doug, I think that sweatshirt said, "I'm okay, you're a DINK." Scratch his name off your list. Maybe it was Tricky-Trap McGee? Sneaky-Snap O'Malley?

Keri said...

Mary's right...the sweatshirt did say "I'm OK, you're a DINK." It was quite the conversation piece at West Minico Junior High. Don't let this slow you down, I'm a fisher-style fan.

Kristi said...

I'm not much of a comment leaver generally but I've left several comments on your blog in the past letting you know that what you wrote totally spoke to me cause guess what, most of us are boring dorks. Too bad so many rude people have so much time on their hands that they look for ways to make others feel bad. Keep writing, for all of us boring dorks out there :)

Petit Elefant said...

Boring dork my fanny.

Rude-y mcrudeville. I don't understand why anonymous commenters go through the trouble of it all. Really? Some honest feedback? Gimme your name, you big fat jerk.

I love your blog, don't change a thing.

mariann and Tory said...

I love reading your blog too...so don't change!! I love it!!

Amo said...

I'm pretty sure I gave Doug the sweatshirt. I thought it was crazy that someone else thought of that crazy phrase and put it on a shirt because Doug was the only person in the world I ever knew who said it.

Cindster -- your blog is awesome. Never stop!

go mom go said...

If your life is boring, I would hate to see what that "someone" would think of mine.

Heats said...

Cindy! You are one of my favorite people to read about and talk to. You are one of the most eloquent writers I've met and that my friend, is a talent not many have. Your writing captivates me and I love reading all your posts. We love you and Fish!

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